(Published February 9, 2009)
I once went to an employment law seminar at the request of my boss, who wanted me to assess whether we should hire the presenter's company to manage some of our systems. The information was pretty much HR 101, and we knew going in that I wasn't going to learn anything. She just wanted to know if I thought, after listening to the presentation, if we should utilize their services.
We did not hire the presenter's company. Much of the information he provided was incorrect. My hand was up constantly — "Are you certain? I seem to recall that the statute says...." I tried to be polite about it and I didn't want to undermine him, but by the end of the seminar, I'd had to correct him so many times that as each question in the Q&A was asked, he would start to answer, look at me, and wait to see what I did. If I nodded, he would finish the answer. If I shook my head, he'd have me answer it.
I have a friend who works for a major law firm. She has found that, for some reason, every time they go through an audit of their 401(k) plans, they get assigned to a junior auditor who doesn't know the first thing about how a 401(k) plan works. My friend ends up having to teach the auditors how to audit, before they can do their job.
What do you do when the person who is supposed to be the expert doesn't know as much as you do? There are a few different possibilities, and which you use depends on the specific situation. Above all, you want to be tactful. The last thing you want to do is make the person uncomfortable.
You can take the position that I took and play innocent. "But I thought that...." I find this to be effective, and I take care not to put them on the defensive.
If the situation is such that it's not important to correct them, you can simply disregard what they're saying. "I doodle in my notebook," one friend told me. "I design a lot of quilts that way."
If they are open to new ideas, you can teach them. The presenter at my seminar realized quickly that I knew the topic matter better than he did and allowed me to "add value."
But whatever you do, be open to learning yourself. You never know when they might have one nugget of information that you didn't have, and all learning can be valuable!
Catherine Bannon is an HR consultant in Marshfield, MA (catherine.bannon@gmail.com). Bannon worked for 10 years in HR management before starting her consulting practice.